Holiday Traditions: A Year-End Gift

There are many post-holiday traditions: the after-Christmas sales, returning items that don’t fit or don’t suit, football games, taking down the tree and house decorations, cleaning up the trash, finding a place for the unusual gift, eating the last of the goodies, moaning over weight gained, enjoying the holiday photos, savoring the memories, or recovering from the unpleasant incident with a relative…

Moving from this year to the beginning of another brings up all kinds of feelings in me.  I sincerely hope that by this time next year my knee injury will be fully healed so I can enjoy walks with my dogs again, and ride on my elliptical without pain.

I’ve been stretched to the max by the course I set out on a year ago to create an online communication skills course.  It is completed, I think.  And ready for students.  But I find I’ve only climbed one mountain to discover another bigger mountain ahead of me…marketing.

However, I have learned a lot this year.  It’s OK to ask for help.  It’s just fine that I can’t do everything myself.  There are people out there who LOVE to do what I don’t want to do, or don’t know how to do.  The building of an online business is a process of ups and downs.  I don’t expect to get it all right the first time.

For the past few months I’ve been longing for someone to take my hand and guide me through steps one through ten, cheering me on all the way.  I don’t remember if my longing ever took the form of a prayer, but an answer has come…I think.  I’ll have to wait and see, but I’m hoping I’ve found the experienced guide for whom I’ve been longing to take me through this marketing, course-building maze.

Whenever I’ve felt discouraged—out of my league—challenged by programs like Camtasia, Kajabi, and GotoWebinar, I’ve taken a deep breath, sometimes just left it alone for a few days, and then cajoling myself like I might a young child learning to ride a bike, promised myself I would go slow, call tech support when I got stuck and conquer this giant!

You may have heard me refer to Helga, the negative voice in my head.  She loves to remind me of my age.  “You’re too old to start doing this!”  But I’ve learned to say back to her, “If I wasn’t doing this, what would I be doing?”  Silence.

My dream for 2018 is two-fold:  To create an online relationship skills course, (or courses) that adequately support me, (yes!) but also to help hundreds (or dare I say thousands!) of couples learn skills and concepts that will enable them to create and enjoy the marriage of their dreams!

For the past twenty-five years I’ve taught classes and privately coached couples, many of whom have transformed their relationships from highly conflicted into consistently loving and respectful.  Every time I see that transformation begin to happen, I feel energized! Joyful! Sure that I am exactly where I’m meant to be, doing exactly what I’m meant to do!

This is my New Year’s Gift to You:  A free coaching appointment either in person (Murrieta, CA) or via Zoom.com.  We can spend some time together, get acquainted, and see what I can do to help further your 2018 dreams for your marriage.  Click on the link below to set up an appointment!

Wishing you the Best Year of your life and your marriage!

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Nancy

Holiday Traditions: Saying Grace

Our family always says “grace” before a meal.  You and I probably won’t be sitting at the same table, but I’d really like to “grace” you with a few blessings from my heart to yours:

Bless you for finding value in my blog… (I assume you wouldn’t read it otherwise.)

Many thanks to those of you who have left encouraging comments…

Thank you for being on this journey of Life with me…

I ADMIRE you for caring about your relationships…

May your celebrations of this Season be filled with Joy, Love and Peace…

May your relationships be mutual expressions of Love…

May the food on your table be scrumptious

May you navigate the holidays in such a way that you feel blessed, rather than stressed…

May you complete whatever journey you are on with Ease…

I so value all the ways you are blessing me!

Sending you a BIG HUG across the ether!

Best wishes, 

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Holiday Traditions: Three Wise Men

A big part of Christmas is the story of the three wise men and their journey to find the King.  This story of an amazing journey comforts me because of my own periodic journeys into the unknown. 

I believe the wise men must have been on a spiritual quest that led them to be “called” to embark on this strenuous physical journey.  I wonder what “the call” was like?  How did they know this is what they must do? What did they tell their friends?  “We’re going to find the King of mankind by following this star!”  What did they tell their families?  “I don’t know how long we’ll be gone.  I’m not sure where we’re going.  I have no idea what will happen when we find the King!  We only know we have to do this!”

After a journey of months, they arrived at the palace of King Herod, asking to meet the recently born potential King.  They expected to find him among royalty, right?  Herod was so intimidated by their message, that he ordered all boy children in the area under the age of two to be killed.

When the parents of baby Jesus heard about the coming slaughter, they high-tailed it to Egypt!

What must these wise, wealthy men have thought when they ended up at the home of a humble carpenter? Yet they must have felt deep validation in their hearts that they had found the King, because they gave him their valuable gifts in homage and worship.

This year I felt called to embark on a course of action without having any idea where I would be when I arrived.  So far, the outcome hasn’t revealed itself to me.  I was hoping to arrive at a palace, but instead, I am still mired down in traveling an unknown road.  In spite of some very challenging circumstances, I just can’t bring myself to quit this journey.  I believe I am meant to keep going.  I long for encouraging signs. I want to know that I’m going in the right direction. But other than the flicker of Star-Light I have in my heart, there are few encouragements.

Are you on a journey without a clear destination?  Are you working toward a goal that seems just out of reach?  How do you keep going?  Why do you keep going?  What hope is it that keeps you putting one foot in front of the other? 

I’d love to hear about your journey.  Maybe we can learn a few lessons from the Wise Men.  Without understanding everything ahead, they just kept going.  They went where they thought the answer would be, but when it wasn’t there, they course corrected.  When their destination looked very different than they anticipated, they still believed.

I wish you safe travels this holiday season!

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Holiday Traditions: Blessed or Stressed?

Remember the opening lines of Fiddler on the Roof?  Tevya singing, “TRADITION!  TRADITION!”

Traditions serve such a valuable service to our cultures and our families.  They provide something to depend on when other things in life may be shaky.  The repetition of them somehow reassures us that there are some things that will never change, when so much seems to be changing at an alarming rate of speed.

This past year while creating my online course, Millionaire Marriage Club, (http://nancylandrum.com/the-clubI’ve had to dive into the scary waters of technology.  I’ve learned procedures and programs that I never in a million years expected to need to know—or be able to conquer!

When I’m overwhelmed, I fall back on simple traditions, like watering the potted plants, picking a bouquet of roses, trimming an overgrown bush, feeding the chickens.  Although simple and homey, these, too, are valuable traditions that ground and settle me.

I’ve found, however, that it’s important for me to evaluate traditions to make sure they are serving my desire for a more peaceful life, especially around the holidays.  Will attending a local musical extravaganza enhance my holiday experience, or exhaust me?  Is making seven or eight batches of Gingies something that gives me joy? Or causes me extra stress?  Is decorating the house with lights something that gives me pleasure? Or am I doing it because it’s expected?

Some of these questions come up for me due to my age.  I am more choosey about my activities and output of energy these days.  But I was much younger when I first made the decision—a courageous decision for me—to only do what gave me joy and avoid doing anything that created resentment or exhaustion. 

That decision forever altered my experience of the holidays.  I now just enjoy them…participate in whatever I choose, and choose to not participate when it won’t harvest more joy.

Is it time to evaluate some of your traditions?  To keep the ones that are truly important to you or your family but discard the ones that only add more stress to your holiday?

This week’s free download may help you look at the traditions that give you energy and joy vs those that may need to be downsized or eliminated.  If you are feeling courageous, take a peek!

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